Still Fired Up!

Once in a while, a very great while, an anti-adoption grenade will drop into the com-box on one of our blogs.  It's always anonymous and just one comment - as in they don't stick around to back up their point of view or read anyone else's for that matter.

Cowardly in my opinion.

I know, I know....who in the world could be anti-adoption?


Well this person is:

Anonymous said...

See I am also one of the camp believing that adoption is less preferable to abortion. In adoption, children lose their mothers. That is a primal wound, and I strongly suggest that anyone considering adoption read Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier. The statistics are real. Adoptees suffer a tremendous loss. You are being selfish TCIE. Why should a woman have a baby, so that You can take it away and raise it? I tell you anything ,I'd rather raise my child myself than give it to strangers. And the adoptee community at www.adultadoptees.org/forum is real. Their pain is real. And yes ,many would rather be aborted than have to live the lives they've had.. with strangers. You may feign shock and horror, but just because you want a baby does not mean you can claim anyone else's.

October 4, 2011 7:34 AM  

 I'd like to take issue with more than a few of these points.

LET ME BE CLEAR ON THIS ONE:  no one "takes a baby away" from a birthmom.  That would be kidnapping and it is illegal and immoral.  Birthmoms make decisions for their child, they choose parents, not strangers, to raise their child.  It is their choice.  Their gift.  It is of no matter that you personally would not make that decision in this pro-adoption forum.  That is your personal preference and has no bearing what-so-ever on our discussions here.  Quite honestly, your "death over life" world view seems inherently flawed to say the least.

No one denies the adopted child's pain.  To say they should be dead instead of experiencing that pain is not only wrong but cruel and hopeless. I can't help but wonder where you draw the line on this line of thinking, so for the sake of argument, let's flesh it out shall we? How about when a mother dies in childbirth - should we kill the child as well? Let's say, a newborn's parents are killed in a car accident.  Should that child also be sentenced to death?  Who will kill him then?  His pediatrician?  How about if the child is 3 and his mother dies of cancer...how about then?  Should anyone under 18 (legally considered a child) be killed because they loose a parent?  What about divorced parents then - perhaps in the situation when the father has custody?    When exactly do you give a motherless child a right to live?  Or to live with someone else?

How do you suppose that ONLY biological mothers are equipped to raise their child without knowing any of their circumstances?  Again, let's follow your line of thinking.  How about a substance addicted mother?  Is she a better mother than an adoptive one who is not.  How about a teenager?  How about a mother that doesn't want to be one?  How exactly do you think we should force mothers to parent their biological children if even by their own admission they are incapable of doing so?

In the end I regret fully that some of your fellow adult adoptees wish they were dead instead of having been adopted.  I know MANY adult adoptees that would categorically disagree with your opinion that they'd be better of aborted.  Now I am not "feigning" shock and horror here.  I am truly shocked and horrified for you to make such claims, not only for yourself, but for other children already fully alive (in the womb and out) waiting, waiting in HOPE to find their adoptive families.  How dare you attempt to take that away from them and call for their death instead!  How dare you attempt to discourage couples who are longing for a child from adopting one.  And lastly, how dare you call me a stranger to MY OWN CHILDREN! 

May God have mercy.